Confidence vs Arrogance

Believing in your self is the most special thing that anyone could ever have. However, it's very unfortunate that some believe that a "higher" level of self confidence affords them justification to make other people feel less than. In this world loving both yourself and the next person for who they are seem to be a contradictory idea. Some may feel that in order for a person to love themselves, one has to discover ways to prove themselves in some way better by mentally and sometimes physically convincing others that they are superior. News Flash... confidence does NOT equal arrogance.

Confidence is derived from accepting yourself for who you are, as being an imperfect human with a distinct set of ideas that create an individualistic and unique personality which is YOU. We all cultivate our own set of morals and values from countless different sources. This means that some thing that I cherish or hold to be important, you may use to wipe your ass with and discard into a watery abyss. But thats ok, because we dont have to like or do the same things. It doesnt make you a better person or worse person, just different. Mind you, there are not 2 people alike, each one of us are different from another in some way(s), thus, we are all equal. There is no litmus test to compare personality (and any test designed to do so is a form of propaganda designed only to prove the creators' idea of superiority which others can not be held to). Judging yourself based on someone else's ideas only hurts you and forces you to forgo yourself in order to meet the criteria of something that you are not.

Why does this happen Stylz? I feel that this occurs because in order to better ourselves we must set fourth personal goals that create a personal path which we use to guide our lives. So in this sense we must create an idea for our self of where we want to end up. The closer we come to our goals the better we feel about ourselves. However, as a result of one viewing an incompatible characteristic as being ideal, their self esteem will become damaged due to the inability to achieve the desired characteristic. Thus, the only logical way to patch this psychological wound is to maintain some type of approval or envy from others.

Having ideas of superiority is simply a manifestation of having a low esteem level and trying to prove that it is not low. Its a way to mask something that one may feel is a flaw which prevents them from obtaining their goals.

Be yourself. Do what u can do, not what you think you are suppose to do or what someone else has told you that you are suppose to do.

I usually end my blogs with a question to ponder over and discuss since i love to understand the viewpoints of others. This brings me to the question for today. Why do you think some measure others else based on personal ideologies or expectations?

Dont Spend Tomorrow's Money Today

Saving money is a concept that has been so hard for me to learn. I recently received a new credit card in the mail, and what was the first thing I did... u guessed it, went shopping. Afterward I thought, why would someone send this to me knowing that I am already a broke ass college student?

What's more difficult is sticking to a budget. A couple months ago I decided that I was going to start saving at least 20 percent of all my income. Since then, how much do u think I saved... again u guessed it.... absolutely nothing at all. Yeah, Ive helped out the economy by taking advantage of all the major sales, but I have done nothing to help myself for my future.

So this is the new plan- Im going to be more diligent on working toward my goals. I decided to not only start saving the 20% but also take two days outta every week where I dont spend any money at all. This should help me to not go into my savings to buy extra stuff, hopefully. Well, I will keep yall updated on my efforts.

If you have any tips or suggestions to help stick to a budget, I would love to hear about em.

Fixing a Crooked Line Up

Many times i have either gone to the barber shop or have done my own lining and it has come out less than perfect. Instead of walking around with a due rag or a cap on for a week i learned how to quickly fix this problem with makeup while making it look so natural that the mistake and cover up was undetectable.

What i use... Mascara

Mascara, just like it can build up your lashes, can also create a natural hair effect if stippled to the skin because it creates texture. And we have all noticed the texture when it clumps up on our lashes. The same technique can also be used to create beard hair or hair anywhere that u would like it to be.

Cleaning up edges is a chinch with cream concealer and a precise, stiff concealer brush like MAC's 195. This particular brush is so great because it is tapered to a point which allows an artist to draw exactly what he wants, exactly where he wants.

dont forget to always powder over anyplace that you apply makeup to make the area look more like skin and to stay in place for a longer time. After powdering, you can also spray a little oil sheen to give a healthy shine or use a she laq product to ensure that it stays all day.

Ditch the Fashion Pimp

I was on the train one day when the cutest girl got on the train and sat right beside me and everything that i was thinking about stopped and focused on what or who in this world made her put that on? I didnt know if it was a practical joke, if she lost a bet, doing a horrible dare, or if she got dressed in the dark. And to make the outfit even worse (which im not even going to describe because some focus on only negative energy and miss the overall picture) she had on a curly phony pony that was a totally different texture and color from the rest of her hair.... While in the process of trying to analyze what made her put that on, I fell into the realization that some actually can go through life, living for themselves, not caring about the way they look or what they have on. This came as such a shock to me because most of us are fashion's whores, doing anything to impress our pimp. Can a person actually survive without having a pimp to tell them what to do, to take care of them, and to make them feel happy? I guess I found my prof that yes, it's possible. I decided right then to transition from a lifestyle revolving around an (usually failed) attempt to satisfy the "norm," the majority, or what others may think is best, to living based on myself and accepting others for being who they are. Can anyone tell me, How is your life without the Fashion Pimp guiding you around under collar and leash?

Beauty - fact or fiction?

I think its beautiful to have a conversation with a person while u hold their hand and look into their eyes. What's more beautiful is a smile with clean, pearly teeth showing while having an intimate conversation. Beauty is a concept - an idea. Which means that it can only exist within your own mind. I think its interesting to know what other people feel is beautiful. would u mind tellin me, What is beauty to you?